I am NEVER good enough!
Story of Hope and Change
Janie tells me in her first session, "I am NEVER good enough! I will NEVER be good enough!"
She sits in my chair, hunched up, clasping her hands tightly and looking pale, despairing and depressed. She is a picture of hopelessness. Janie is a composite of many clients who have said much the same thing to me over the years. Her story is a sad but common one.
SELF-WORTH? I ask about self-worth. Self-worth? What is that? Janie cannot even begin to imagine that she might have self-worth, that her life is valuable, that her being in this life has value. I talk about self-worth and value. She looks at me uncomprehendingly and I take a deep breath knowing that it will take some time for Janie to learn consciously that she does indeed have self-worth, has in fact always had it. |
Janie goes on to tell me, "No matter what I did, my mother/father/teacher/older sibling always criticised me. I could never do anything right. I could never please him/her. After a while I gave up trying. What's the point?" Janie cries in despair.
Throughout her childhood she was constantly told that she was hopeless and everything she did was criticised. No wonder she had no sense of self-worth, didn't think she mattered. 
JANIE LEARNS A NEW SELF-IMAGE
As she learns consciously that she does have self-worth, that she IS 'good enough', it will take some time for that 'head' knowledge to go deep within where she can FEEL her self-worth, her self-esteem, and the most important of all, SELF-LOVE. We start to undo the negative view of herself she took on board. |
These new words of encouragement form a foundation on which her self-confidence and a KNOWING that she is GOOD ENOUGH starts to grow.
Janie learns to rediscover her innate wisdom and to trust it and listen to it. This is a very important step towards self-worth. She learns that 'not being good enough' is something that came from outside. She did not know that part of her despair is her soul crying out against the injustice of the imposition. She starts to feel at the core of her soul that she will ALWAYS BE GOOD ENOUGH and she is learning to stand within the circle of her Personal Power.
We both know there will be times of struggle because life will always throw up challenges to test us, but Janie now knows that she has the innate wisdom and resilience of her soul to be strong and confident and good enough to follow her heart. 
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If ANY part of this story feels all too familiar to you, then it is time to do something about it. There is no need to carry such emotional burdens. Share them with me and together we will find solutions to your problems.